We’re adding a list which will be a list of ‘Goals for 2007′. Al is programming away as I type. We hope to have this list in place for the new year. It will be a little different than a normal Lifelist. It has always been the plan to add ‘todolists’ to the site and this new list will be more like a to do list. We’ll be able to set target dates and tick an item off when it’s achieved so that we will be able to follow our progress. Of course if we don’t want to pressure ourselves by adding target dates then we don’t have to. I’ve found myself in the past, starting off a new year with a huge list of resolutions that I forget about shortly afterwards. This list won’t just be like a resolution in the traditional sense, apart from things I want to achieve it will be a list of things to remember; for me that means ‘don’t worry so much, enjoy yourself, relax, enjoy the simple things etc..’ I hope that doing it this way I will have a reminder of all of my intentions for the year that I can look at from time to time and edit if I like. Any suggestions will be gratefully received.
Well it’s an important day today. We’ve removed the password protection from mylifelists.com. Although we’ve been working on this site for almost a year, the whole time we’ve been developing the site, we’ve protected it with a password. Today, for the first time, the site is live and available to everyone. I feel like a mother dropping her child off to school for the first time. The site is now out on it’s own in the world for the first time without my protection. Please be nice to it, it’s only a baby!
I love reading other people’s Lifelists even when they belong to someone I don’t know. It’s amazing how much we can have in common with people who we may think we have nothing in common with at first glance. ‘flyssann’ registered with the site today and reading his/her list I notice that ‘The Space Between’ by the Dave Matthews Band is listed as a favourite song. I love that track and although it’s on my i-pod I’d forgotten to list it in my ‘more songs’ list so thanks flyssann for the reminder. When I saw ‘The Space Between’ listed, I felt an overwhelming urge to contact flyssann and say , “yes, me too, I love that song” I’ve been thinking about this for the last few months – we need to find a way to say to each other “yes, I like that too”. I was thinking that we should set up a system where we can send a ‘Metoo” or “Me2″ to each other. I’m not exactly sure what form it will take, but we’re working on it and hope to add it to the site soon. I notice that flyssann also lists ‘Black Lab’ as a favourite band, I’ve never heard of Black Lab, but if flysann likes Dave Matthews as I do, maybe I should check out Black Lab, infact I’m off to do that now.
Living where we do, almost 180 miles from the nearest shop with a decent range of products, Christmas shopping has to be done online and mainly via Amazon. The problem is that so many people don’t have Amazon wishlists and, often, if they do, they don’t keep them up to date. Although I’d much rather buy a gift that I know is wanted, wishlists do away with any element of surprise which I think is also very important when giving a gift. After almost 8 hours of online shopping I wish that all of my friends and family had Lifelists (hopefully, by this time next year, they will!). It would be so much easier to buy gifts for them.
I was watching the Bourne Supremacy on TV yesterday and I wondered. If Jason Bourne had a Lifelist , would it be useful in helping him remember who he was and what he was all about? I’d like to think it would. That made me think about myself. If I lost my memory, assuming that Al or somebody would tell me what my name is and what my password is, would my Lifelists be a good enough reminder of who I am? Maybe I need to do some more work on my Lifelists it just in case!
We’ve had weeks and weeks of wind and rain. The last few nights have been very stormy and as a result we have bowls and pots and pans all the way up our staircase and along the corridor. The sound of all of the drips landing in the various containers is amazing. So much water has come through the roof that our bedroom ceiling is soaked and now it’s black with mold / mildew- well I don’t know what it is, but stuff is growing. We’ve had to move into our guestroom which is the only dry(ish) room on the 1st floor. I just hope that we can make it through the winter intact and find a way of getting the money together for our new roof in the spring. It’s all very upsetting; my books are starting to go mouldy! When we moved here it was because we wanted to opt out of the ‘rat race’. We always said; we don’t want lots of money; just a roof over our heads but wow, when that roof starts to leak, everything changes.
So back in October I was very excited about the start of a new series of Strictly Come Dancing. Now the sparkle has started to wear off a little for me. The dancers I like get voted off and the judges’ comments drive me round the bend. I still watch it but the magic has gone. It’s like when I hear a piece of music for the first time and fall in love with it. I play it over and over and enthuse to all of my friends about it. Then, 2 weeks later, I’m embarrassed to say I liked it at all. I adore SCD when it first arrives on our screens but I wouldn’t want to add it to my main Lifelist because I fall out of love with it as quickly as I fall in love with it. It will be perfect for my ‘Nowlist’. We plan to add Nowlists to the site in the near future. A Nowlist is a list of things that I’m loving right this moment. We will only need one Nowlist because they will constantly change as our moods change. We’ll be able to list the music, TV, whatever, that is making our world go round at that moment without making the same commitment to it that we do when we add something to our main Lifelist.
It seems that sadly our little bar is not long for this world. We’re in the quietest part of the year now and the truth is, it’s costs us money to open. We’ve been subsidising the bar from our own pockets and we’ve been doing this for a long time now. We can’t carry on doing that, especially in the light of tonight’s events. Earlier this evening a customer emptied our coal bucket onto the fire in the bar and added lots of turf (it was part of a joke that won’t translate very well). Shortly afterwards, our chimney was on fire. Although chimney fires are not unheard of in this part of the world it really was very upsetting to see huge flames shooting out of the top of our chimney and wondering if the fire would spread to our roof. We called the fire brigade. In this area the fire service is a voluntary one, they arrived quickly and very professionally dealt with the fire. Our local council will now send us a bill for 500 Euro, which is the rate they charge for a call out for a commercial business. We don’t know how we are going to pay this- we did even think about not calling and hoping that the fire didn’t spread but in hindsight we’re glad we did call. We were very lucky that the wind was blowing the flames away from the house and although our chimneystack is now cracked we are pretty sure that for the time being at least, it ‘s not in danger of falling. The same can’t be said for the precarious financial position we find ourselves in regarding the bar though.
We’re planning to add Legacylists to the site. It had always been my plan for Legacylists to be part of the whole Lifelists thing. The idea is that a Legacy list is a collection of thoughts and wishes to leave behind when you (dare I say it?) die. An opportunity to leave messages for loved one, advice for friends and colleagues and perhaps even wishes for how your life should be celebrated. It isn’t a will. We’re going to put up a rudimentary idea of Legacylists on the site but I can see that it will need to evolve as time goes by. I think it will need to be more flexible than a Lifelist as I imagine that users will want to change the names of the topics themselves as well as the items listed. A Legacylist will be protected by an additional password and can only be viewed by those who know what this password is. I think we will produce a ‘Legacylist Card’ (similar to a Donor Card) to be downloaded from the site that users can write their password on.
Apart from my own habit of Lifelisting, the main reason for developing this site into something we can all do, has been illustrated all too clearly recently. Two of my Aunties have died in the last few months; One living in Tasmania, I can’t say I’ve ever really known her at all, apart from the odd letter. My other aunt died very suddenly. She lived a short walk away and just collapsed and died. She was in her early 60′s and had been a great friend to Al and I. I’m left wondering what both of these women would have put on their Lifelists. Sometimes it’s hard to talk about these things with someone from a different generation when you are just getting on with everyday life. I had meant to ask both of my aunts to create Lifelists. Now it’s too late.